Perspective

I'm not those sappy girls nor do I have even one romantic bone in my body. But, I'm going thru stuff lately and believe it or not this series from wongfu kinda somehow.. Hmm, let's just say I can relate. Watch here... the last episode is the reason I wrote this post. :T
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y_9YJ4NmawE

It's like about a girl and a boy - YEAH! surprise surprise. Lol! what else is new lately anyway beside that one topic?! Anyway, Tammy likes this boy Matt, that likes another girl Anna. Of course Tammy doesn't tell him and always be that friend that's always there for Matt. N there is another guy Justin that likes Tammy, but Tammy was blinded by Matt n Jason is always there for Tammy. Yup those kinda story.
However, what I'm trying to relate is not the story between A like B, B like C etc. But the relationship between the "friends". Say Tammy and Justin they are friends but Tammy doesn't know that Justin like her. So errrm.. I just randomly thought of this just now...

Say, I have that friend, a guy that I can always depend to, but how would I know how he really feels whenever I tell him all this story I've w/ another guy? Ok it's not like I think he likes me (I'm sure the guy friend that I've in mind will never like me in that way....) then I would hurt him kinda thing. I think what made me wonder is just more like whatever I say may or may not affect him.
Ok, this is confusing, a friend of mine posted this before and it made me think..

I'm learning more and more, that like God, whatever I say...creates. Whether it's on fb, twitter, youtube, or in person, every time I have an opportunity to say something, I'm creating or at least adding to the setting I'm in. Am I creating a good atmosphere? Or am I indirectly bringing down people? Such an important question to ask ourselves.

That, get it?! U know I hate regretting stuff but sometimes I feel like "hey, maybe I shouldn't say that? what if it changes stuff? what if what I said affected my friend?". I think that's one of the reason why I don't like to weigh people down w/ my problems? Aside from the fact that I don't want to add more to others', they have their own problems, who am I to add more to their already busy lives? Ya know?
But see, if I'm on their shoes and a friend of mine don't tell me stuff because of the same reasons I have, I would probably think, "wth? I thought we are friends?"

Arggghh! maybe all this is just in my head?! U know most of my friends are guys and I like talking to them more than girls, because they bring in different perspectives. Is it the right one? maybe so.
This is a nice quote btw..

Whatever side you're on, always keep in mind that the right perspective makes a big difference!

Sometimes, I wonder if my guy friends ever think that "hey, I talked to Na about all these girls, whatever happen if she actually likes me? Did I hurt her? Did what I say affected her in any way?"

I know for dang sure it's hard to say stuff to your friends, especially giving advices, suggestions, or opinions. You don't want to say the wrong things.

You know what.. this is crazy.. I don't even know where I'm getting at. I guess I just want to remind myself to be careful when I say stuff the next time?! But then again, if I'm on the receiver side, I want my friends to tell me what they think. No matter if it's bad or good or what will the end result be. The way I see it, if I took that advice and something bad happened. Hey, maybe it meant to happen and most importantly it's really my own fault for taking the advice. It's not like I don't have my own head to think with, to decide if I want to follow that advice or not.

At the end of the day, whatever advice we took from someone.. I think we know that the reason we followed that advice is because subconsciously, we already know that we were gonna do the same anyway. I think talking and following the one advice is just a comfort/security issues. Like, "ah see, I knew I was right. I was gonna do that to begin with anyway." Well then again, it's maybe just me.

The right perspective.. it could be.. or it could just be the comforting perspective.

Aiya..dunno la! lemme end this yo! But rest assure guy friends out there, I don't have feeling toward yous like that. That being said tho..

I don't know what will happen in the future. None of us do, only God knows what will happen in our lives. What we know for sure is that God put those people in our lives for a reason. 

And I believe that feelings can change no matter what we said or told ourselves. Hey you never know you might ended up liking that one friend that you thought would always be your bud and nothing more. Feeling, it happens.
Have I tell you lately I don't like this thing called "feeling" ? BLAH! Always complicates stuff!! Especially if you are me, the girl that apparently known to not show her feelings. Actually maybe that's why I don't show feelings.. it complicates stuff.

Ok I'm done. This randomness is getting out of hand! LOL!


Xo for now,

-Na-