Approach and be approached

What is up peepz?! Been a while. =D

So just had small group tonight.. a discussion came up about a very conversational topic. So not gonna go there and discuss it here. We all probably have in mind what it's about right? right? if not, go check out today's news. 

We were talking about Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life, and how He shows the way by say hanging out w/ those who aren't saved. That's how it all started, got pretty "heated up" on the "topic".

Basically one mentioned is protesting against certain belief the right thing to do? Isn't there a better way?
Another said, there will always be a better way, we just have to stand for what we believe in, defend what we believe in.
What would Jesus do? One said He would tell the truth although it hurts. Yes that maybe true but He would base it on love.
Go around and around in wrong, right, better, etc. Pretty much an argument between 2 people. I tried to be the middle ground but it's kinda hard when 1 of them is sooo stubborn and I would say a little close minded.

At the end, I said, you know what... I think it's not about better or right or wrong or defending what we believe in. It's about our approach to it. Is protesting against something really the approach we want to take?
Then I told them about a conversation at work this morning about a coworker of mine's mom. She went to church once and she loved it. BUT, the 2nd time she went, the church representative said, "if you want to be a member of the church, you have to tithe/donate this amount". And that just made her "whooooaa... this is uncool and tell the church off. Why is my faith being judge by money?"

Do you see what's wrong there? YUP, the approach is totally bad. I would totally turn around and left if that happened to me. I'm all about tithing but you can't just tell someone to give their money up and in specific amount too.
I'm so glad we don't do that in our church. Although it still bugs the heck out of me every time we have AGM and certain people would ask sooooo detail about the money issue, especially offering and tithing, like where the money go, etc.
Every time, in my head, I'm like really?! why?! you gave the money for you love offering to God, why do you have to know so detail where the money went? It's donation, you gave it up willingly, so just trust that it goes to the right places for the right thing, for God. SIGH!

But anyway, back to this approaching. I think there are better ways to approach certain issues, certain people and violence, negativity isn't the answer. Base everything on love right? So I'm sure instead of protesting against something, we can approach the issues nicely. Sure, it will take some times, it will take lots of patience, it will take energy. BUT at least it will hopefully eventually be fruitful. What does protesting against something do? NOTHING. ZERO. NADA. ZIT. NIL. It just creates more negativity.
So the next time, why don't we step back a little and think about it before we go out there and protest about something?! YUP!

ANYWHO! talking about good approach and basing everything on love. You know.. Eve was created from Adam's rib to be side by side of him, to be equal. Not from his head to be higher than him and not from his feet to be lower than him.
Why does certain man think it's ok to put woman down?! SMH!

If you are husband and wife, you argue, sure it's normal, it's fine. I think a relationship w/o a good "argument" is kind of blah. BUT there are different approaches to handle it here. I mean come on! if say, your wife don't agree w/ you on something and you are outside w/ people around you, why would you just battle it out there?!
If it's part of the discussion, one could do a different approach than say stuff like "don't touch me, I don't feel like talking anymore." Maybe like, "hey you know what, I don't agree on what you said. But let's stop here and we can talk more later at home"
SIGH! I can't anymore.

Isn't it in the bible that husband is to lead the wife, the family? BUT there is no where in the bible that said you can put your wife down. Husband is simply there to be the leader, to influence (biblically-based of course)- not to dictate, not to put down, not to demand.

I would let my husband lead me because that's how it's suppose to be BUT! we, women, are created to be equal, we are here to help men to lead, to grow together. Not to be put down. So women out there, don't be afraid to speak out! A good husband..heck let's not go that far, a good man would never put woman down. As the son of God himself born of a woman.

'Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.' ~ Colossians 3:19

'So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female, he created them' ~Genesis 1:27


Approach and be approached, be approachable. Respect and be respected, be respectful.


Xo for now,

-Na-